I would die for them tomorrow. That's what killed me.
In the spring of 2021, a generation raised on public performance discovered that heartbreak, too, becomes content. Four young creators — Mads Lewis, Jaden Hossler, Nessa Barrett, and Josh Richards — found their private loyalties and romantic endings pulled into the open by a deleted video, a Taylor Swift song, and the unforgiving memory of the internet. What began as one person's grief became a shared reckoning about the cost of living one's most tender moments in front of millions. They were nineteen, navigating love and friendship, but the stage they had built for themselves offered no wings to retreat to.
- Mads Lewis posted and quickly deleted a Taylor Swift 'Better Than Revenge' video — a gesture small enough to erase but loud enough to ignite weeks of public fallout.
- Nessa Barrett's cryptic responses about nearly doing something irreversible raised the emotional stakes far beyond relationship gossip, forcing the conversation into darker territory.
- Josh Richards, trapped between his best friend and his girlfriend, went on his podcast to grieve publicly — only to end up blocking Jaden and watching their friendship collapse in real time.
- Jaden and Nessa's matching tattoos and confirmed romance made denial impossible, even as everyone involved urged fans to stop speculating and let things settle offline.
- By mid-April, the group had reached a fragile, unresolved landing: friendships fractured, relationships reshuffled, and a collective wish that the whole thing had never left the group chat.
In late March 2021, Mads Lewis posted a video set to Taylor Swift's 'Better Than Revenge' — a song about a girl who steals your boyfriend — then deleted it almost immediately. The target was unmistakable: Nessa Barrett, who had been growing closer to Mads's on-and-off boyfriend Jaden Hossler while the two promoted a song together. The gesture was brief, but the internet is patient.
Mads later acknowledged the post was immature, explaining she had tried reaching out to Nessa privately first. When that failed, she went public. Nessa responded on Twitter with veiled references to a breakdown and cutting negativity from her life. The two exchanged cryptic song titles before deleting everything — but not before the damage spread.
The most complicated figure in all of it was Josh Richards. He was Nessa's on-and-off boyfriend and Jaden's closest friend, which left him holding grief from every direction. On his podcast, he spoke with raw honesty: he didn't believe Jaden and Nessa had acted with malice, but the public accusation had shaken something he couldn't easily repair. He and Nessa broke up. He blocked Jaden. Jaden went on Instagram Live asking his former best friend to call him. Their mutual friend Griffin Johnson declared he would 'go to war' for Josh.
Mads eventually revealed on another podcast that she had found messages on Jaden's iPad suggesting he had feelings for Nessa. When she confronted him, he told her he didn't like her anymore. She believed him. She said he hadn't cheated — the relationship had simply run out. Despite blocking everyone involved, she said she still loved him and wanted him to be happy.
Jaden and Nessa, meanwhile, became impossible to deny. They were spotted together, photographed on dates, and eventually got matching tattoos — the number 3, on her thumb and his neck. Josh had the final word on his podcast: they were all nineteen, he said, just trying to figure things out. He didn't know if he and Jaden would ever be friends again. He asked fans to stop speculating and let things stay offline. The lesson had been learned, but the evidence — blocked accounts, matching ink, deleted tweets — was already permanent.
In late March 2021, the TikTok world fractured along a fault line that had been building for weeks. Mads Lewis, who had been dating Jaden Hossler on and off since 2019, watched as her boyfriend spent increasing time with Nessa Barrett. The two were promoting a song together called "La Di Die," and their closeness began to feel like something more. When Mads could no longer contain what she was feeling, she posted a video to Taylor Swift's "Better Than Revenge"—a song about a girl who steals your boyfriend—and then deleted it almost immediately. The message was unmistakable: Nessa had come between them, moving faster than anyone could stop.
Mads later tried to explain herself, acknowledging the video was immature but insisting she wasn't jealous of the song or of Nessa herself. She claimed she had attempted to handle it privately first, reaching out to Nessa directly, but when that didn't work, she posted publicly. "Maybe this will get her attention," she wrote. What she got instead was a full-scale reckoning across social media. Nessa responded on Twitter with cryptic posts about having broken down two weeks prior and nearly doing something irreversible. She said she was cutting negativity from her life and focusing on music. The two women traded references—Nessa tweeted about true colors, Mads responded with a Cyndi Lauper song title—before both deleted their posts.
But the real complication was Josh Richards. He was Nessa's on-and-off boyfriend and Jaden's closest friend, which meant he was caught between two people he loved. On his podcast, BFFs, Josh laid out his perspective with raw emotion. He believed Mads and Jaden had broken up because their relationship wasn't healthy, and he thought the breaking point was Jaden making music with Nessa. When the video dropped, Josh said it devastated him—not because he believed Jaden and Nessa were together, but because the public accusation threatened to destroy relationships he cherished. "I'm looking at this video and I see two people I love," he said. "They're like my family. I would die for them tomorrow." He and Nessa were on a break at the time, so he didn't even know what was happening in her life when the drama exploded.
Josh's conclusion was harsh toward Mads. He believed she was lashing out because her own life had been affected, and she wanted to drag others down with her. But when he spoke to both Jaden and Nessa, he came away convinced that neither of them had acted with malice. Still, the damage was done. In a follow-up podcast episode, Josh confirmed he and Nessa had broken up. He also blocked Jaden on all social media, a move so public that Jaden had to go on Instagram Live begging his former best friend to call him. Their mutual friend Griffin Johnson took Josh's side, posting that he would "go to war" for Josh.
Meanwhile, Jaden and Nessa were becoming harder to ignore as a couple. They were spotted on dates, and when paparazzi asked how long they'd been official, Jaden deflected but said he was "the happiest he'd ever been." They got matching tattoos—both the number 3, placed on Nessa's left thumb and Jaden's neck. Mads eventually went on the podcast Call Her Daddy and revealed she had looked at Jaden's iPad, finding messages between him and his manager that suggested Jaden and Nessa had feelings for each other. When she confronted him, Jaden said he didn't like her anymore. Mads said she believed him, that the relationship simply wasn't working. She insisted Jaden hadn't cheated and hadn't gotten with Nessa while they were together. Despite blocking everyone involved, she said she still loved Jaden and wanted him to be happy, even if that meant being with Nessa.
By mid-April, Josh had the final word. He returned to his podcast to say that he didn't think Jaden and Nessa had acted maliciously—they were all just nineteen years old, trying to figure things out. But he wished it had all stayed offline. He called Mads immature for posting the video in the first place. As for his friendship with Jaden, Josh hesitated when asked if they would ever be friends again. "That's a hard question to answer," he said. He tweeted that he was moving on and handling things offline, asking fans to do the same. The group had learned a painful lesson about what happens when private hurt becomes public spectacle, but by then the damage to their friendships was already written in matching tattoos and blocked accounts.
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I said, 'You have one chance to tell me the f*cking truth.' Jaden told me he didn't like me anymore.— Mads Lewis, on the Call Her Daddy podcast
We're all like 19-year-olds too. We're all young as f*ck just trying to figure sh*t out.— Josh Richards, reflecting on the situation on his podcast
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Why did Mads post that video if she'd already tried talking to Nessa privately?
She was desperate. When Nessa didn't respond to her direct outreach, Mads felt like she had no other way to be heard. The video was a last resort, a way to force acknowledgment.
But Josh said Jaden and Nessa weren't actually together when Mads posted it. So what was she really upset about?
The timing. Jaden was pulling away from her, spending all his time with Nessa, and Mads could feel it happening. She looked at his iPad and saw messages that confirmed what her gut was telling her. By the time she posted, she already believed something had shifted between them.
Josh seemed to care more about protecting Jaden and Nessa than about Mads's pain. Why?
Because they were his people. Jaden was his brother since the beginning of his LA life. Nessa was someone he loved. When Mads made it public, it felt like she was attacking them both, and Josh had to defend them. But he was also grieving—he was losing his best friend and his girlfriend at the same time.
Did Jaden actually cheat, or did he just leave Mads for Nessa?
According to Jaden and Mads both, no. He said he didn't like Mads anymore and the relationship wasn't healthy. Whether he had feelings for Nessa before the breakup is something only he knows. But the timeline matters less than the fact that Mads felt betrayed.
What's the real tragedy here?
Four people who cared about each other let one moment of hurt become a permanent rupture. Josh and Jaden were brothers. Mads and Nessa knew each other well. But once it went public, once it became content, there was no coming back from it. They all said they wanted to handle it offline, but by then it was too late.