He seeks to make me suffer even more by making me relive this trauma
In a Singapore High Court, a 64-year-old mother pursues civil damages from the imprisoned man who killed her son — not merely for financial restitution, but for the law's formal acknowledgment of an irreversible loss. Spencer Tuppani, 39, was fatally stabbed by his own father-in-law outside a coffee shop in 2017, leaving his mother without her primary provider and bound to a courtroom that keeps summoning her grief. The case asks something courts are rarely equipped to answer: whether justice, once delivered in criminal proceedings, can be made whole again through civil remedy.
- A mother who lost her son and her financial lifeline must now watch his killer — already convicted and jailed — contest the civil judgment from behind prison walls.
- Tan Nam Seng, 72, claims self-defense in the civil suit despite having pleaded guilty to culpable homicide, creating a jarring legal contradiction that prolongs the proceedings.
- Procedural disputes over how legal papers were served have allowed Tan to apply to set aside an interlocutory judgment, threatening to force a full trial on damages.
- Madam Tham has stated plainly that the continued litigation feels like an extension of the original harm — a second wound inflicted through legal process rather than a blade.
- The case now turns on whether Tan can mount a credible defense of reasonable conduct in a civil court, even as his criminal conviction stands as a matter of record.
Madam Tham Poh Kwai is 64 years old and still in court. She is seeking $5,050 a month from the man who killed her son — money to replace the rent and support that Spencer Tuppani, 39, once provided before his father-in-law stabbed him in the chest outside a Telok Ayer Street coffee shop in July 2017. Tan Nam Seng, now 72, is serving 8.5 years for culpable homicide after pleading guilty. The criminal case is settled. The civil one is not.
Tan has chosen to contest the civil judgment. He claims self-defense — that he feared being outnumbered, that he brought the knife to protect himself, that he acted reasonably under threat. His lawyers argue he breached no duty of care. This is the same man who, in criminal court, admitted to the killing while citing major depressive disorder, long-simmering resentment over his daughter's marriage, and a disputed business debt of $40,000.
An interlocutory judgment ordering damages was entered in December after Madam Tham's lawyers filed their claim. Tan moved to set it aside, arguing the papers were served while he was in remand and his daughter — his conduit to his solicitors — was abroad on holiday. Her legal team called it delay. She called it something more personal: in her affidavit, she described the ongoing litigation as forcing her to relive her son's death in order to prove what she believes no court should need to hear again.
The fractures between Spencer and Tan ran deep — an affair, a suspended sibling, a contested business — but none of it accounts for a man arriving at a coffee shop with a knife. For Madam Tham, the civil suit is not really about the money. It is about not being made to justify her grief. The hearing has resumed. There is no resolution yet.
Madam Tham Poh Kwai sits in the High Court, watching the legal machinery turn around the man who killed her son. She is 64 years old. She is asking for $5,050 a month—money to replace what her son Spencer Tuppani used to give her, money to cover the rent on the home he once provided. Spencer was 39 when his father-in-law, Tan Nam Seng, stabbed him in the chest outside a coffee shop on Telok Ayer Street in July 2017. Tan is now in jail, serving 8 and a half years for culpable homicide. But the case is not finished. The civil suit continues, and Madam Tham must keep returning to court.
Tan, who is 72, pleaded guilty to the killing. The court heard during his trial that he suffered from major depressive disorder. He was angry at how Spencer had treated his daughter Shyller. He also believed Spencer had cheated him out of his shipping business. These grievances—real or imagined—led him to confront Spencer at the coffee shop that morning. He brought a knife with him. When Spencer stood up, Tan used it. The blade went into Spencer's chest. Spencer died.
Now Tan is contesting the civil judgment. He claims he acted in self-defense. He says he feared being outnumbered by Spencer and his friends. He says he took the knife to protect himself, that he stabbed Spencer only because he felt threatened, that he acted reasonably under the circumstances. His lawyers argue he did not breach any duty of care owed to the man he killed.
Madam Tham's lawyers filed a statement of claim last November. They alleged that Tan had "wrongfully, wilfully and intentionally assaulted, attacked and stabbed" Spencer, causing his death. An interlocutory judgment was entered in December, ordering Tan to pay damages. But Tan applied to set it aside. He said he was in remand when the papers were served. He said he could only communicate with his solicitors through his daughter, who was away on holiday. The papers arrived while she was gone.
Madam Tham's legal team pushed back. They argued that Tan was simply trying to delay the proceedings, that he had no real defense to offer. In her affidavit, Madam Tham wrote something that cuts to the heart of what this case means to her: "It appears that he seeks to make me suffer even more for the loss of my son by having to relive this entire trauma by making me proceed to trial and prove what he knows is indefeasible." She is not just fighting for money. She is fighting against being forced to relitigate her son's death in open court, to prove again and again that the man who killed him did so without justification.
The background of the killing matters. The relationship between Spencer and Tan had fractured over years. Tan learned that Spencer was having an affair. Tan also discovered that Spencer had suspended another of his daughters, Sherry, from the company Tan had founded. Spencer allegedly owed Tan $40,000 from a prior business deal. These were the threads that unraveled into violence. But none of it explains why a man brings a knife to a coffee shop to confront his son-in-law, or why he uses it.
The civil suit is ongoing. Madam Tham, represented by David Nayar and Associates, continues to pursue her claim. Tan, represented by United Legal Alliance, continues to defend himself. The High Court has resumed the hearing. There is no resolution yet. For Madam Tham, there may never be one that feels adequate—not the money, not the judgment, not the vindication. Her son is dead. The man who killed him is in prison. And she is still in court, still having to prove what happened, still waiting for the law to acknowledge what she already knows.
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He seeks to make me suffer even more for the loss of my son by having to relive this entire trauma by making me proceed to trial and prove what he knows is indefeasible.— Madam Tham Poh Kwai, in her affidavit
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Why does she need to pursue this civil case at all? Isn't the criminal conviction enough?
The criminal case established that Tan killed Spencer. But it didn't address what Madam Tham lost—the money, the support, the future she depended on. The civil suit is about making that loss visible in monetary terms, about forcing the person responsible to acknowledge it.
And Tan is claiming self-defense even now, even after pleading guilty to culpable homicide?
Yes. In the criminal case, he admitted to the killing but said he was depressed and had grievances. Now, in the civil suit, he's saying he had to defend himself. It's a different argument for a different forum.
How does that work legally?
A guilty plea to culpable homicide doesn't require proving intent to kill—just that the act was unlawful and caused death. Self-defense could theoretically fit within that. But in the civil case, Madam Tham has to prove he was liable, and he gets to argue he acted reasonably. It's a second trial, essentially.
What does she mean about reliving the trauma?
She has to go back to court, tell the story again, prove again what happened. Every hearing is another day spent in the room where her son's death is being litigated. Tan's delay tactics mean she doesn't get closure—she gets extended suffering.
Does the self-defense claim have any merit?
The facts suggest not. Tan brought the knife. He initiated the confrontation. He was the one with the weapon. But the court will have to hear it out. That's the process.